lessons learned: 5 years of no booze.
July 2026 marked 5 years of not drinking (!!)
My decision to stop drinking wasn’t premeditated. In 2021 I was returning from a month long vacation in Portland, Oregon feeling frustrated, like shit and with far less money in my bank account. A trip I had been so excited for to reconnect with my hometown friends after an isolating year of the pandemic - yet every time I got together with someone it was centered around alcohol. I realized that in the entire month I didn’t create any new memories but instead traveled across the country to “drink and catch up”.
I decided to take a 2-week break from booze to reset.
During that reset I read Quit Like a Woman: The Radical Choice to Not Drink in a Culture Obsessed with Alcohol. It affirmed my curiosity around the role alcohol was playing in my own life, understand the chokehold it has over us as a society and reinforced my decision to remove it completely. This one big decision eliminated so many smaller choices in my day-to-day life and provided many existential and incredibly practical lessons along the way…
5 practical lessons from 5 years alcohol free.
1. Most people do not consider non-drinkers when hosting.
BYOB - show up to events with a fun NA drink for yourself (and for others) just like you’d to bring a bottle of wine to a dinner party.
Ginger-ale in a champagne flute is a perfect swap for a celebratory toast!
2. You shouldn’t (evenly) split the bill.
It can be wildly frustrating when the check comes and someone who has downed 4 martinis says “y’all good if we just split it?” abso-fucking-lutely not Janet. One huge benefit of not drinking is that going out to eat becomes far more affordable. Establish that you’re not drinking (and not paying the alcohol bill) from the very beginning - especially on group trips.
3. Prepare for relationships (and dating) to shift.
Be prepared - you might stop getting the invite. When you’re the one not drinking you can easily become a mirror to those around you. While this can be challenging in the beginning, it becomes obvious who you have a true connection with. Quality > quantity matters.
Dating becomes far more intentional and will save you from your next situationship.
Update your dating apps to “no drinking“ asap. Not everyone you match with will catch this detail, but many will and they’ll either be completely turned off or come up with a great first date not centered around alcohol.
4. Come with ideas for hanging out.
So many of us have grown accustomed to catching up over drinks that we’ve lost our ability to plan anything else. Be ready to make recommendations. Some of my favorites that cost the equivalent to >3 drinks :
comedy show
cooking / baking class
coffee shop in a new part of town and walk around
salsa dance lesson
blue bikes along the river
mocktail mixology class
5. You’ll have a lot more time feeling a lot better. You’ll also have more money.
I recognized quickly the impact just one glass of wine had on my sleep and recovery. Not losing a single day to a hangover in 5-years has left me with more times for hobbies, friendships and adventures.
Meditations are about to become much, much deeper - get a journal :)
That $$$ you saved from not going out? Invest it.
Prioritize your nutrition, sleep and movement.
Whether you’re removing alcohol from your life completely, or just taking a break for this season of life - I hope these lessons can remove some bumps along the way and offer you a smoother road on your journey!
The Energy Audit
Every 6 months I go through an exercise I’ve coined as The Energy Audit - a deep look and my weekly schedule analyze how I’m investing my time and energy through the lens of compensation, time and energetic input / output. As a full time yoga teacher for the last 8 years I’ve noticed it’s incredibly easy to become time poor. You’re running around the city 5-7 days a week and left completely depleted. Your personal life and new opportunities hit the back burner and if you’re not careful you burn out before you have the chance to really hit your stride and create impact.
By utilizing the steps of The Energy Audit I better understand where I’ve become stagnant and more objectively understand when something is no longer adding value to my week. The last time I did this exercise I removed 5 classes from my weekly schedule and within 2-seeks had a new project and dream partnership presented to me - and the space to say yes!
In order for us to continue to evolve we must better understand when to let something go in order to create the space to pursue what’s to come.
Consider…
How am I spending my energy?
What am I ready to “weed out”?
What am I creating space for?
The Energy Audit:
Step 01: list out your weekly commitments (classes, clients, projects, etc)
how many days of the week are you working?
how much (consecutive) time off do you get regularly?
Step 02: evaluate each commitment
compensation - when was the last time you increased your rate and does it remain competative within your market for your up-to-date skill set.
time (include planning / commute) - understand the true hourly rate when you include all factors
energy input / output - determine if you feel energized or depleted when leaving this commitment. Not everything you do needs to make the most money, but if something is depleting you energetically AND not brining in the cash it’s gotta go.
Step 03: what will you doing 6 months from now
it’s one thing to understand where you are now, but understand where you’re headed will help inform which opportunites to pursue and what should be let go of to create more space.
Step 04: remove the bottom (1-3) performing commitments
this can be tough, but where steps 01 - 03 help us make informed decisions!
Now it’s your turn! Carve out 10 - 30 minutes to analyze your own energetic management and get ready to make some informed decisions.
TOP SHELF // Zero Proof Recommendations
With Sober October around the corner I’m sharing some of my favorite zero proof beverages that I’ve been enjoying for the past 2+ years!
I’ve tried all of their flavors - my current flavor is Champignon Dreams. The adaptogenic ingredients : reishi mushrooms, passion flower and L-theanine.
The perfect swap for a champagne toast or mimosa.
Add a cinnamon sugar rim to Dark & Groudy or an orange to Wit’s Peak and thank me later. Bonus! Their Two for the Trails program gives back up to $2M annually to protect and restore local hiking trails.
Enjoy the added smokey depth to a zero proof mezcal margarita.
A simple swap for the classic gin and tonic with notes of juniper, coriander and rooibios makes this anything but boring.
Locally made in New England with refillable bottles and Boston farmers markets. I’ve been mixing up my flavors…my most recent fill - solar eclipse.
Whether you’ve given up alcohol completely, are sober curious, or simply taking a break for the night, I hope these recommendations serve as a helpful and mindful starting point for you to explore your options!
Optimize your potential with sankalpa
We live in a society with constant pressure to perform. We set quarterly goals at work, new years resolutions, and intentions. If left unchecked the constant pressure to perform to meet the expectations of others will lead to burnout. One thing that is missing from all of these is understanding the importance of WHY?
“On this path you must first awaken your sankalpa shakti, the power of will and determination to overcome your resistance.” - Swami Rama
Yoga provides us a roadmap to look beyond external performance markers and begin to explore our personal potential. It provides a systematic process to remove ego as we settle into stillness and witness our truest, highest self. And from this experience we gain insight into what’s important, where we are headed and perhaps most importantly, why.
A sankalpa is declarative statement, resolution, or intention formed at the heart in which you vow to commit a specific goal. Translated from sanskrit :
san - concept or idea formed at the heart
kalpa - a way of proceeding
There are 4 types of sankalpas :
Dharma - life purpose.
Artha - material means (to fulfilling your purpose)
Kama - pleasure.
Moksha - freedom.
It’s great to have a lot of goals. But the truth is you can’t be working on everything all at once and expect to see sustainable results. By taking a step back and evaluating what season you’re in you can better determine the type of resolution is best fit to be as efficient as possible working with the wisdom of this particular season. Consider what you have going on for the next 6 months…
Which of the 4 areas needs the most attention?
What would be the best use of your time / what do you have the bandwidth for?
What is your north star for (this season of) life?
I remember waking up one day after living in Boston for 4 years realizing I’d been so focused on pursuing my dharma (teaching) and artha (rent, groceries, this city is expensive!) that I had been completely neglecting kama (developing friendships + pursuing hobbies). That realization offered the opportunity to begin envisioning a more fulfilling, balanced life and I made the suddenly easy decision to stop teaching weekends. A few months in I was hosting friends for brunch at my apartment and planning a week long trip to one of my bucket list places - Joshua Tree.
When you know where you’re headed it will become easier to make the right choices to keep you on your path. This clear direction helps you be more efficient + effective in realizing your sankalpa as it eliminates decision fatigue and determines where to put your time, energy and resources.
4 tips for staying accountable to your sankalpa :
Establish a daily practice that allows you to return (even if just for a moment) to your truest self.
Be specific - understand what it looks like, feels like.
Progression (Vinyasa krama) - wise progression. It’s not going to happen over night. Have a plan that progressively introduces this into your life in a way that will be sustainable for years to come.
Write it down in present tense - as if it has already happened, as if it is already true.
Further reading recommendations :
Path of Fire and Light (Swami Rama)
The Four Desires (Rod Stryker)
Radiant Rest (Tracee Stanley)
How Performance is Impacted by Doshas.
How you experience the world is unique. We’re familiar with introverts and extroverts, star signs and enneagrams. So what is a doshas and how does it impact your performance?
Dosha is your energetic makeup that informs how you interact with the world around you. There are three doshas : vata, pitta and kapha. Each of us has a unique combination of all three, creating a personal energetic thumbprint. In developing an understanding of the doshas we can explore the impact of our environment. The spaces that we’ll thrive in, and even the places that we’ll crash and burn. That is if we choose to pay attention…
One of the biggest factors to not reaching reaching peak performance is burnout or mismanagement of energy input vs output.
We’ve all seen it : The athlete that gets injured right before the big game. The smartest student in the class needing to take a term off after anxiety takes over. Deeply passionate high performers are often at the highest risk of burnout because of their willingness to ignore signs + symptoms of stress until it’s too late.
This is where a yoga practice can have a huge impact!
When you are able to recognize how stress + tension is showing up for you physically, mentally and emotionally you can select practices that will help pacify these symptoms and return to homeostasis.
Step 01 : Identify signs + symptoms of burnout.
Step 02 : Determine which of the three doshas is presenting most imbalanced.
Step 03 : Implement pacifying practices such as asana (movement) + pranayama (breath work ) + meditation + lifestyle changes.
Step 04 : Return to center and continue pursuing your highest potential.
The 3 doshas : vata, pitta and kapha all have their unique strengths. For the purpose of understanding the potential of burnout mitigation the list below offers a brief glimpse into symptoms of stress and pacifying practices :
Vata -
Symptoms : anxious, insomnia
Pacifying practices : forward folds / twists + longer exhale
Recommended classes : restorative + yoga nidra
Pitta -
Symptoms : irritable, argumentative
Pacifying practices : twists / some backbends + samavritti (equal breath)
Recommended classes : hatha + iyengar
Kapha -
Symptoms : over attached, lack of motivation
Pacifying practices : laterals / backbends + longer inhale
Recommended classes : dynamic vinyasa + ashtanga
The purpose of your yoga practice isn’t to get better at the practice. The purpose is to utilize the practice to mitigate burnout, reset to a state of balance and return to optimizing the potential of your life.
To more about developing a progressive personal practice here.
Personalize Your Practice : Who should you hire?
There are a few major factors to take into consideration when finding the right private yoga teacher for you .
What are your goals?
What are their credentials / experience?
What is your investment budget (time / money)?
GOALS : Many of us are introduced to the movement side of the practice, asana. However, the real magic comes from integrating the entire system of yoga to release physical, mental, and emotional tension that is holding us back from reaching and living out our highest potential. This integration takes us from where we are to where we want (need) to be.
My intake with new students includes a 15 minute consultation + comprehensive questionnaire and provides critical information to prescribe the most effective practices for my students. Some key questions / observations include :
Where do you hold the most physical tension?
What are your compensation patterns and why?
Do you find it easier to hold at the top of your inhale or bottom of your exhale?
What peak performance (or high stress) moments do you have coming up in the next 90 days?
What is your reaction when asked to be still for 10 minutes?
Is there a clear roadmap for your time together?
CREDENTIALS / EXPERIENCE : I’m going to keep it real - “yoga instructors” are a dime a dozen these days. Running a yoga teacher training program is an excellent revenue stream for studios. Does graduating from a 200 hr yoga teacher training program mean you’re ready to start teaching? Not necessarily - let’s break it down.
200 RYT - successfully completed 200 hours of training. This is the minimum requirement to become a certified yoga teacher (per the Yoga Alliance).
500 RTY - successfully completed 500 hours of training.
200 eRYT - completed 200 hours of training + 1,000 teaching hours + 2 years of teaching experience.
500 eRYT - completed 500 hours of training + 2,000 teaching hours + taught a minimum of 4 years (since completing their first training).
Do they have the training + experience to take you from where you are to where you want to be efficiently?
INVESTMENT : When hiring a private yoga teacher you are investing both your time and money. It is important to consider your investment budget. Before you make the investment I highly recommend you do a vibe check! If the teacher has a public offering coming up soon take it. And while you’re there keep an eye out for their ability to help offer individualized variations, answer questions, etc.
Proximity : For many clients the ability to continue their routine while traveling is critical. Does this teacher offer in-person and virtual sessions?
Cadence : You get out what you put in. And consistency is key! How often would you like to practice / month?
Is this the right teacher for your during this season of your life?
Finding the right teacher for you may take time. Don’t be afraid to ask around! Word of mouth is the best referral out there.
Think I might be the right teacher for you? Do a vibe check in one of my upcoming workshops or group classes!
Then book your 15 minute complimentary virtual consultation here.